無論我們生活在地球的哪一個角落，都對孩子擁有同一樣的愛。我們都愿意把好的奉獻給孩子，我們更希望傳承給孩子一種方法，讓他們學會面對現實，創造未來！
閱讀How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk《如何說孩子才會聽怎么聽孩子才肯說》的經歷，將是一次學習愛的技巧與接受愛的訓練的過程，它給了你走進孩子內心世界的鑰匙，指引你切身體會孩子內心的感受。通過一系列實用有效的方法，幫助你和孩子建立起一個能夠快樂交流的平臺，使孩子變得不同尋常地愿意與父母配合。掌握了“如何說？”“怎么聽？”的技巧，就能開啟孩子的心靈世界，與孩子達成美妙的交流溝通，讓孩子在您的引導下身心健康發展。
為了建立這個快樂溝通的平臺，圍繞“如何說”“怎么聽”，作者從六個方面進行了探討和實踐：
1、幫助孩子面對他們的感受；
2、鼓勵孩子與我們合作；
3、代替懲罰的方法；
4、鼓勵孩子自立；
5、恰當地贊賞孩子；
6、讓孩子從角色中釋放。
尤為可貴的是作者清晰簡潔地創造了一套操作方法，給出了實現這六個方面的30種技巧，輔以大量的常見場景和問題加以說明，并配有相應的練習題，讓父母可以把這些技巧爛熟于心，靈活運用，隨時應付各種情況，做到游刃有余。
Here is the bestselling book that will give you the know-how you need to be more effective with your children—and more supportive of yourself. Enthusiastically praised by parents and professionals around the world, the down-to-earth, respectful approach of Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish makes relationships with children of all ages less stressful and more rewarding. Now, in this thirtieth-anniversary edition, these award-winning experts share their latest insights and suggestions based on feedback they’ve received over the years. Their methods of communication—illustrated with delightful cartoons showing the skills in action—offer innovative ways to solve common problems. You’ll learn how to:
Cope with your child’s negative feelings—frustration, disappointment, anger, etc.
Express your anger without being hurtful
Engage your child’s willing cooperation
Set firm limits and still maintain goodwill
Use alternatives to punishment
Resolve family conflicts peacefully
How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk《如何說孩子才會聽怎么聽孩子才肯說》是一本暢銷三十多年的家教圖書，由全球暢銷家教書系作者、美國杰出的教育專家阿黛爾 法伯與伊萊恩 瑪茲麗施專為青春期孩子家長所著。自出版以來就受到了來自世界各地父母和專家熱情洋溢的贊美，已被譯為30多種文字風靡全球，銷量數百萬，全球已有20多萬個親子團隊使用此書作為家長培訓教材，堪稱“父母和孩子的溝通圣經”。
本書選取親子關系中常見的場景，告訴父母“尊重感受、尋求合作、代替懲罰、如何贊賞、應對憤怒”的珍貴方法和技巧，使父母在短時間內得心應手，學會溝通，把和孩子的矛盾化解于無形之中。書中又匯集了父母們常問到的問題和作者給出的答案，既是應用實例，也是父母隨時應用的參考書。本版本為英文版30周年紀念版，已重新修訂并增加作者女兒喬安娜•法伯講述本書理念和方法對自己成長的巨大幫助的新內容，非常適合各位爸爸媽媽或家庭教育講師閱讀使用。
推薦理由：
1. 一本融合愛與溝通技巧的神奇之書，一本讓孩子健康成長的父母必讀之書；
2. 眾多國內外家長、育兒專家、教育媒體力薦的“育兒寶典”，家庭教育必讀書目；
3. 內容豐富，圖文并茂，寫作條理清晰，有較多的案例分析及練習題，實用性強；
4. 本版本為30周年紀念版，內容已全新修訂，含作者分享的新觀點及建議；
5. 英文原版，內容原汁原味，詞匯用語較為簡單，讀起來并不艱澀難懂。
The ultimate “parenting bible” (The Boston Globe) with a new foreword—and available as an ebook for the first time—a timeless, beloved book on how to effectively communicate with your child from the #1 New York Times bestselling authors.
Internationally acclaimed experts on communication between parents and children, Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish “are doing for parenting today what Dr. Spock did for our generation” (Parent Magazine). Now, this bestselling classic includes fresh insights and suggestions as well as the author’s time-tested methods to solve common problems and build foundations for lasting relationships, including innovative ways to: Cope with your child’s negative feelings, such as frustration, anger, and disappointment. Express your strong feelings without being hurtfu. Engage your child’s willing cooperation. Set firm limits and maintain goodwill. Use alternatives to punishment that promote self-discipline. Understand the difference between helpful and unhelpful praise. Resolve family conflicts peacefully.
Enthusiastically praised by parents and professionals around the world, the down-to-earth, respectful approach of Faber and Mazlish makes relationships with children of all ages less stressful and more rewarding.
Review
“Will bring about more cooperation from children than all the yelling and pleading in the world.” — Christian Science Monitor
“An excellent book that’s applicable to any relationship.” — Washington Post
“Practical, sensible, lucid… the approaches Faber and Mazlish lay out are so logical you wonder why you read them with such a burst of discovery.” — Family Journal
“An exceptional work, not simply just another ‘how to’ book… All parents can use these methods to improve the everyday quality of t heir relationships with their children.” — Fort Worth Star Telegram
阿黛爾•法伯(Adele Faber)和伊萊恩•瑪茲麗施(Elaine Mazlish)是國際著名親子溝通專家，她們的著作不僅深受家長的歡迎，而且也得到專業人士的認可。
兩位作者的首部作品《解放父母解放孩子》(Liberated Parents Liberated Children)曾榮獲“克里斯多佛”獎，第二本書《如何說孩子才會聽怎么聽孩子才肯說》(How to Talk So Kids Will Listen&Listen So Kids Will Talk)銷售量超過300萬本，被翻譯成30多種語言。關于這本書的講座教材和錄像帶被全球20多萬個親子團體所使用。 兩位作者都是三個孩子的母親，她們已被收錄于美國名人錄。
Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish are #1 New York Times bestselling and award-winning authors whose books have sold more than three million copies and have been translated into over thirty languages. How to Talk So Kids Can Learn—At Home and in School, was cited by Child Magazine as the “best book of the year for excellence in family issues in education.” The authors’ group workshop programs and videos produced by PBS are currently being used by parent and teacher groups around the world. They currently reside in Long Island, New York and each is the parent of three children.
Acknowledgments 謝辭
A Letter to Readers 給讀者的一封信
How to Read and Use This Book 如何閱讀本書
Helping Children Deal With Their Feelings幫助孩子面對他們的感受
Engaging Cooperation 鼓勵孩子與我們合作
Alternatives to Punishment 代替懲罰的方法
Encouraging Autonomy 鼓勵孩子自立
Praise 學會贊賞孩子
Freeing Children from Playing Roles 讓孩子從角色中釋放
Putting It All Together 融會貫通
What’s It All About, Anyway? 這一切是為了什么？
Afterword 精彩在繼續
Many Years Later 多年以后
I. The Letters 讀者的來信
II. Yes, but…What if…How about…? 是這樣，但是……如果……會怎么樣？
III. Their Native Tongue 孩子們的“母語”
30th Anniversary 30周年紀念版感言
The Next Generation 下一代的成長
Some Books You May Interesting 為讀者推薦的家教圖書
For Further Study… 進一步研究
Index 索引
I was a wonderful parent before I had children. I was an expert on why everyone else was having problems with theirs. Then I had three of my own.
Living with real children can be humbling. Every morning I would tell myself, “Today is going to be different,” and every morning was a variation of the one before: “You gave her more than me!” … “That’s the pink cup. I want the blue cup.” … “This oatmeal looks like throw-up.” … “He punched me.” . . . “I never touched him!” … “I won’t go to my room. You’re not the boss over me!”
They finally wore me down. And though it was the last thing I ever dreamed I’d be doing, I joined a parent group. The group met at a local child-guidance center and was led by a young psychologist, Dr. Haim Ginott.
The meeting was intriguing. The subject was “children’s feelings,” and the two hours sped by. I came home with a head spinning with new thoughts and a notebook full of undigested ideas:
Direct connection between how kids feel and how they behave.
When kids feel right, they’ll behave right.
How do we help them to feel right?
By accepting their feelings!
Problem—Parents don’t usually accept their children’s feelings.
